If you recognise this and know that you need to ask for help to make changes, you are facing up to things and already some way forward. There are steps you can take yourself to help remove yourself from the situation but you may need some support and advice to do this. However, remember you should always dial 999 if you or anyone around you such as your family is in immediate danger.
- Be unavailable to negative influences - spend time with your family, caregivers and any other positive influence such as a mentor or pastor if you can
- Turn your phone off or change the SIM if it is your own phone
- Concentrate on your studies and things you like such as music, sports, art – this is an excellent way to send a signal that you are progressing your life on your own terms.
- Get good at making excuses – do they want you to go out and do stuff? Say you are grounded, have a family commitment or that you need to keep an appointment with a professional such as a social worker or YOT worker.
Most importantly, don’t keep things bottled up and reach out for help. This can be from someone you trust in your life already such as your parent or teacher or it can be from someone who is a professional in helping young people with these issues. At St Giles, we realise how difficult life is for young people in these types of situations so we train people who have been in similar ones to help other young people. They’ve walked in your shoes, come from similar communities and really understand what’s going on for you.